Words are powerful and ideas have consequences. How we handle them, understand them, and use them to enlarge our capacities and shape us is an exciting and life long process of curiosity and wonder.

As a lover of words, a relentless researcher and a cultivator of stories, I would love to speak to your group on a topic that you are passionate about. Here are three areas that I am particularly invested in throughout my own life's work that I would love to share with you.

Photo taken by M&Him Photography @ Paused & Present 2017

Photo taken by M&Him Photography @ Paused & Present 2017



Without a doubt, teaching, speaking and facilitating GOOD leadership while calling out and addressing poor leadership is my life's work. Contrary to popular opinion, not everyone is a leader but almost everyone has influence. So learning to leverage the influence we have in a healthy, holistic way is something we all benefit from.

But the hardest person to lead is always ourselves, am I right? So what keeps tripping us up when we need to make important decisions or we find ourselves stuck in unhealthy patterns of communication, work-life balance, resentful of being unable to move forward in life? Learning to lead ourselves is the first step in recognizing what good leadership is and how we want to show up in our relationships, our homes and our places of work.

Abbey at Riveaulx 2015

Abbey at Riveaulx 2015

Venti Life

We have the opportunity to live extraordinary ordinary lives that have deep meaning and a larger purpose. I also am a coffee afficianodo so when I think about living a wholehearted life, images of rich, steaming dark coffee in a Venti cup fill my imagination.

Venti = big, robust, juicy, intentional.

A VENTI LIFE is more than just some idealized version of a hallmark movie. It is deeply intentional, it is a reflective, emotionally intelligent cultivated purpose that aligns every aspect of our decision-making, worldview and practices. Living a VENTI LIFE takes time to discover our passions and dreams, to learn what to walk out on and walk on to. It involves a trusted tribe to keep us focused and accountable when we want to bail and take the easy road. 

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.
Elie Wiesel
Westminster Abbey 2015

Westminster Abbey 2015

Generous Orthodoxy (Spiritual Stuff)

The ancient biblical texts are mystifying and beautiful and it is an honor and always personally transformational when teaching, speaking and preaching from them. I have been a student and practitioner of my faith for 4 decades and here's how my faith shapes who I am today...I am a feminist, I am an egalitarian, I cuss sometimes, I believe love is always the answer, I am an ally in the LGBTQ+ community and I don't fit into any western evangelical label (and I am good with that).

I kept running around it in large or small circles, always looking for someone or something able to convince me of my Belovedness. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved”. Being the Beloved expresses the core truth of our existence. Henri J.M Nouwen